** Editor’s Note: This is pre-COVID writing. For the record, I still think the same way in a new context. You may proceed.
Have you ever felt thought, “Boo, I just want you to do this, this and um, yup that too.”
When I tell you I thought I saw blood orange the other day, I had to stop and catch my tone and my breath.
Girl, we HAVE TO STOP THINKING OUR THOUGHTS ARE BEING READ.
Seriously, we may have a bit of a problem with this. Don’t worry – I do too.
The root of this: I have a birthday coming up.
I have said to my Hubs, do you want to go to Miami? What should we do? I mean, I plan something FABULOUS for this man’s birthday nearly EVERY year. We’ve gone to Jamacia, the Bahamas, Dominican Republic, staycations where I decorate the house and make him fancy.
So for my birthday, I feel like I have done the heavy lifting as I have come up with ideas on what we could do that fits within the budget and my cister (cousin who is like a sister) says to me, “I get it but he is very black and white and you always do the planning.
But I feel you, sometimes a girl just wants to show up.
Ding ding ding ding! OMG – that was like a lightbulb went off.
She expressed exactly to the tee how I feel. Like, I don’t think you understand, E-X-A-C-T-L-Y!!!!
My husband shows up everyday always making sure I am taken care of ,from gas in my car to grabbing my fave drinks and snacks from the grocery store but when you always create a great travel experience for FOURTEEN years (I’m sorry – so many caps in this post, can you feel my first world rage?!?!) sometimes, you just want to show up with tickets in hand and a destination. You want to hear, I’ve got it planned, let’s do this and that “let’s do this” includes a plane ride.
After I wrote that I understand how tit for tat that is as I leave dishes in the sink, work ungodly hours per week, and just in general, do me to the 9th degree.
But still I am frustrated because I obviously haven’t expressed the depth of how I feel about this so how does he know? Seriously, I want him to read my mind and I know it isn’t fair but dammit it’s what I want and after 14 years, I get to have a tantrum right?
Well Ladies & Gents, don’t be like me. This is an official public service announcement.
If you want something from your hunny, say it. Don’t water it down or beat around the bush.
Say what that heart of yours desires and nudge some suggestions with that want list. Trust me, you’ll be glad you said it and you know those other ears heard it. ✌️
Let’s Talk About It: How has mind reading worked for you??? Have you adopted the just say it and get what you want? What do you do to get what you want and not get your feelings feeling some type of way?
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